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1. I've been
        romantic and imaginative.
        pragmatic and down to earth.

2. I have tended to
        take on confrontations.
        avoid confrontations.

3. I have typically been
        diplomatic, charming, and ambitious.
        direct, formal, and idealistic.

4. I have tended to be
        focused and intense.
        spontaneous and fun-loving.

5. I have been a
        hospitable person and have enjoyed welcoming new friends into my life.
        private person and have not mixed much with others.

6. Generally, it's been
        easy to "get a rise" out of me.
        difficult to "get a rise" out of me.

7. I've been more of a
        "street-smart" survivor.
        "high-minded" idealist.

8. I have
        needed to show affection to people.
        preferred to maintain a certain distance with people.

9. When presented with a new experience, I've usually asked myself if it would be
        useful to me.
        enjoyable.

10. I have tended to focus too much on
        myself.
        others.

11. Others have depended on my
        insight and knowledge.
        strength and decisiveness.

12. I have come across as being too
        unsure of myself.
        sure of myself.

13. I have been more
        relationship-oriented than goal-oriented.
        goal-oriented than relationship-oriented.

14. I have
        not been able to speak up for myself very well.
        been outspoken—I've said what others wished they had the nerve to say.

15. It's been difficult for me to
        stop considering alternatives and do something definite.
        take it easy and be more flexible.

16. I have tended to be
        hesitant and procrastinating.
        bold and domineering.

17. My
        reluctance to get too involved has gotten me into trouble with people.
        eagerness to have people depend on me has gotten me into trouble with them.

18. Usually, I have
        been able to put my feelings aside to get the job done.
        needed to work through my feelings before I could act.

19. Generally, I have been
        methodical and cautious.
        adventurous and taken risks.

20. I have tended to be a
        supportive, giving person who enjoys the company of others.
        serious, reserved person who likes discussing issues.

21. I've often felt the need to
        be a "pillar of strength."
        perform perfectly.

22. I've typically been interested in
        asking tough questions and maintaining my independence.
        maintaining my stability and peace of mind.

23. I've been too
        hard-nosed and skeptical.
        soft-hearted and sentimental.

24. I've often worried that
        I'm missing out on something better.
        if I let down my guard, someone will take advantage of me.

25. My habit of
        being "stand-offish" has annoyed people.
        telling people what to do has annoyed people.

26. Usually, when troubles have gotten to me, I have
        been able to "tune them out."
        treated myself to something I've enjoyed.

27. I have
        depended upon my friends and they have known that they can depend on me.
        not depended on people; I have done things on my own.

28. I have tended to be
        detached and preoccupied.
        moody and self-absorbed.

29. I have liked to
        challenge people and "shake them up."
        comfort people and calm them down.

30. I have generally been an
        outgoing, sociable person.
        earnest, self-disciplined person.

31. I've usually
        been shy about showing my abilities.
        liked to let people know what I can do well.

32.
        Pursuing my personal interests has been more important to me than having comfort and security.
        Having comfort and security has been more important to me than pursuing my personal interests.

33. When I've had conflict with others, I've
        tended to withdraw.
        rarely backed down.

34. I have
        given in too easily and let others push me around.
        been too uncompromising and demanding with others.

35. I've been appreciated for my
        unsinkable spirit and great sense of humor.
        quiet strength and exceptional generosity.

36. Much of my success has been
        due to my talent for making a favorable impression.
        achieved despite my lack of interest in developing "interpersonal skills."

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